I woke up one day and realized that I had a 15 year old daughter. She was distant, moody, consumed with her friends, and in reality wanted little to do with her crotchety ancient 39 year-old dad. I was assured by everyone that this was normal and this was just what “teenaged girls do”. I believed that for a while but after I thought about it I wondered whether she wanted me to just go away or whether she was just seeking assurance that I was still there and I still cared.
“I love you.”
”I love you too”
This is the phrase that Brieana and I have exchanged on every conversation since she was a baby. We still do this every day. Sometime she has initiated, and other times I have, but a conversation isn’t over until we have exchanged these words. Of course there have been a few rare conversations that haven’t ended this way but not many. It is so common that sometimes I wonder whether it is just a habit or whether it is a sincere exchange of feelings but…..
…..in the time I have spent on this earth I have heard too many stories of men, women, and children who have (or very rarely have) heard their parents say the words, “I love you.”. I have no intentional plans to overcompensate for this, but I don’t think a sincere expression of your feelings for a person should be restricted because a person can’t utter the words….”I love you”.
I think as a rule we should tell the people that we love that, in fact, WE LOVE THEM!!! Why on earth wouldn’t we? Tell your child, your grandmother, your dad, your mom, your wife, husband, TELL THEM!!! Just break the ice and don’t care if they tell you back. Just tell them!!
Below is a picture of my incredible daughter that inspired this post with her refusal to hang up the phone without saying I love you… even as a distant and moody 15 year old.
Tell them….